theasexualityblog said: Sorry for the delay, I've just now seen your reblog on my response to the ask that was critiqued. First, I'd like to thank you for being so respectful in your rebuttal. Second, I would like to take you up on your offer to share some links with me. I am always looking to improve my knowledge base and understanding and since my own research methods (tumblr, google, and a few books) are subpar, can you suggest where the best resources are for up-to-date discussions? I'd like to get more involved.
Much of the recent discussion on this subject in particular is admittedly somewhat scattered across several threads, which has made it difficult to follow even if you are already keeping an eye on the usual places.
First, if you are not following the actuallyasexual tag and reading the things posted in it, I would encourage you to do that posthaste. It’s generally a good basic source of in-depth discussion.
Another good source of discussion and a way to keep an eye on what is going on is to follow the Asexual Agenda linkspams. The Agenda’s job is to further “201” community discourse, and one of the ways it tries to do that is by creating a list of links to discussions that have been happening elsewhere.
Besides all that, I suggest that you go back and read everything that Queenie offered to her in her initial response to your ask. She provided a lot of good resources, and it would be silly of me to repeat them again here. If you check out her teeny tiny linkspams, they are also good ways to get yourself up to date on a variety of discussions organized by topic.
I would also suggest checking the reblogs of the posts I’m going to link you for additional commentary, particularly because I’m only linking original posts in this thread because there are so very many. If you only read the original posts, you are missing out on enormous pieces of the discussion. This discussion and the sub-discussions that sprang from it include topics such as:
- how repulsed aces and aces-who-have-sex relate to each other
- whether emphasizing that asexuals have sex can have negative repercussions
- how community discourse privileges some at the expense of others
- whether 101 blogs are paying attention
- whether sex-favorable is an acceptable term for aces who sometimes have sex
- and others I’m missing right now.
In general, if you want to see community discourse you need to be looking at reblogs, NOT only original posts. People usually have back-and-forth conversations and to be able to understand what’s going on you need to be able to understand how the conversation evolves within an original post. I finally suggest that you look for people in those discussions who you think are consistently saying interesting things and follow them. One of the best ways to figure out where a new in-depth community discussion is happening is to have people who constantly weigh into those discussions on your feed.
Fortunately these discussions tend to be heavy on reblogs with added commentary, which means you aren’t scrolling through endless likes and reblogs before finding more discussion.
A brief rundown of the current discussion:
Miscelanii kicks off a discussion about whether framing asexuality as though the majority of aces are open to sex is inherently harmful.
The Ace Theist doesn’t think that grey-A people will necessarily be made uncomfortable by phrases like “most asexuals are uninterested in sex.”
Anagnori helpfully chimes in with a list of things that 101 blogs can do better while unaccountably failing to link to other context for the conversation.
Beranyth doesn’t think this is a 101 issue but rather an issue about how asexuals discuss the issue of sex within the community and thereby erase repulsed experiences.
Epocryphal has more thoughts on priorities in vis-ed and when to use the word “most.”
To my followers, if I am missing anything please do let me know! I’ve tried to be comprehensive about linking to everything in this discussion that I can find but it is very possible that I have lost something. If you have other resources to add, I’d love to see them.