“If sex doesn’t matter, why should gender? People find their sexual orientation by being sexually driven to a gender. If you don’t have that drive, you also have no limitations.”
Despite being nonsexual, my attractions are still very gendered. I don’t see it as a limitation that I am more attracted to certain genders than others any more than it’s a limitation to not be attracted to every single person. Limitation implies choice, and I have never chosen my attractions.
Limitations are just the barriers put up around us, either in our own personal lives or in our physical world. We don’t always put them there; sometimes they exist from birth (like sexual orientation). Sexual orientation isn’t a choice and neither are your limitations. By being nonsexual or asexual, you don’t have sexual barriers to contend with because you were born without them. And that’s beautiful.
As an asexual person, I find this pretty gross. I still have preferences about what kinds of people I want to spend time with, and I have gendered preferences about what kinds of people I want to be really close to. I certainly have “barriers” about who I’d like to have sex with (i.e., no one).
Also, I find your contention that my sexual orientation is “beautiful” pretty fetishizing. Please stop it. I’m a person, not your inspirational story about how life would be better without limitations. I’m not any less selective about the people I let into my personal life than you are, and I’d really thank you to stop implying that I’m some kind of “beautiful” person who loves everyone equally.
