August 2011
43 posts
hidden-agender asked: YOU ARE MISSED. ;_________; (This is Cat, I changed my name here.)
Wednesday Linkspam →
Linkspam’s up!
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Another note on being repulsed
aceadmiral:
There are lots of things in this world I do not like, to varying levels. Asparagus. People who don’t use their turn signals. Spiders. Toothpaste of any flavor other than green. And many, many more. Nobody’s suggesting I go to a therapist checked over my burning hatred of tomatoes. Why should sex be any different?
Especially because, no one takes issue when I say “I hate tomatoes”...
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Asexies/demisexies, question?
elebuufish:
If you do the thing where you where a black ring on your middle finger—where do you get yours and what are they made of? I’ve heard a black ceramic would be a nice one.
It’s such a simple and confident gesture, I think I’d like to have one myself. What say you?
I have bought all but my first one online. (The first one was a hematite ring that I almost immediately broke. I’d...
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My list of demands
aceadmiral:
Since some people are a little confused about the Radical Asexual Agenda and how we want to commandeer all the queer spaces, I’ve written down what I, personally, want from the LGBT community. This is my agenda unique to them.
…I mean, would it be nice if they would let the aces into their safe spaces? Yeah, it would. Would it be nice if they helped with visibility by...
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Sent an email to the faculty member in charge of...
aceadmiral:
thechronicwanderer:
asked her if the group would be chill about an asexual joining.
Things that break my heart while I simultaneously understand completely, part the third.
The sad thing is that when I tried to do that last year, no one ever got back to me.
(It turns out they are chill! But, you know, three years of side-eying them wondering whether I would be welcome kiiiind...
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Carnival of Aces: Call for Submissions →
Betraying my book geek origins (my superhero identity was born in a library), the theme for this month is literature and media representation. I’ll post the round-up of submissions on or just after September 1st.
Hey, the Carnival of Aces deadline is approaching soon!
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dear tumblr's asexual/aromantic/demisexual...
lisapizza:
are any of you coming to dragon*con? would anyone be interested in a meet-up or gathering or achieving the world record for largest doctor who cuddle party or whatever?
Oi! People! I’m going to be at Dragon*Con this year, I’d love to do a meet-up at some point!
This is what I'm actually angry about:
hernameishelen:
writingfromfactorx:
hernameishelen:
kazaera:
No, the credit for that goes entirely to Sciatrix, who I snagged it from.
I do have to say that I’m kind of surprised you heard it from Greybird, because, okay it’s been a few years but… Greybird is the AVEN mod I was talking about up there, who said shit about repulsed people not really being asexual that drove me off AVEN. So...
This is what I'm actually angry about:
hernameishelen:
kazaera:
No, the credit for that goes entirely to Sciatrix, who I snagged it from.
I do have to say that I’m kind of surprised you heard it from Greybird, because, okay it’s been a few years but… Greybird is the AVEN mod I was talking about up there, who said shit about repulsed people not really being asexual that drove me off AVEN. So this would be a pretty dramatic change...
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Group_X is open! →
aceeccentric:
What it says on the tin. The Dreamwidth community is open! Spread the word :)
Building a Path →
I desperately want–I want it to be twenty years in the future, really. I want to know where I’m going. I want to know the path I’m trying to walk doesn’t fall off a cliff somewhere. I want a lot of things, but most of them boil down to a degree of certainty, and I’ll never have that.
I wrote something.
starfoozle replied to your post: You mentioned that you work in a research lab. What kind of research? I’m a bio student and love hearing people’s lab stories.
Hurrah for population genetics! It’s totally fascinating and I can’t wait to take more classes in it. I have never heard of anesthetizing flies, though that makes perfect sense, as they’d probably be tricky to handle otherwise. Very cool...
kynodontas replied to your post: I’ve actually come to realise that I don’t actually know all that much about you. What do you do for fun? Besides, y’know, ranting and similar.
i am going to regret asking this, but XM:FC recs? *g*
ajhflhfhjsl people are asking me for fandom recs! (I am very, very used to lurking in fandom—I have written exactly one thing, anonymously, since 2006—so...
starfoozle asked: You mentioned that you work in a research lab. What kind of research? I'm a bio student and love hearing people's lab stories.
captainjerkway asked: I've actually come to realise that I don't actually know all that much about you. What do you do for fun? Besides, y'know, ranting and similar.
Come talk to me.
I’m—not bored, exactly, but I’m in a mood and most of the people I normally talk to are asleep and the thing I am trying to write isn’t quite coming together. So. This is a good time to ask me questions, if anyone actually has any, or strike up a conversation with me, or whatever—whether I know you to talk to or not.
My ask is open and anon is on.
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DW comm: naming/membership/layout →
aceeccentric:
The name poll winner is group_x with two suggestions for ace_space, which wasn’t on the poll. If a significant amount of people want to change their votes I’ll run the poll again.
Also in this post: proposed membership policy, and layouts I’m considering.
Remember that the draft of the safe space and accessibility policies is up. Chime in if you have an opinion re: freezing vs....
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Yes, I'm talking to YOU
emerald-ace:
I’ve been reading some stuff in the asexuality tag, and I’ve been thinking that some people need to hear this, so here goes.
You are NOT a burden, or a problem, or a disadvantage to the ace community. It does not matter if you all of the stereotypically asexual traits (but I’m perpetuating ace stereotypes!) or none of them (but people will think I’m not ace!). It does not matter if...
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A Love Letter from the Sidelines
acewatch:
Hello,
I’ve been following the ace community on tumblr for a while now, and recently I decided that there’s not enough gratitude for the amazing online community. So I wrote my mildly embarrassing love letter here. Since I don’t have a tumblr account, I was wondering if you could help me pass this message on? Thanks.
Veerserif
Oh, this is beautiful! And the elephants post got...
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Hippopotamus
aceadmiral:
So I made a post earlier today about how when I talk to people about asexuality, the assumptions they usually make are that all asexuals are aromantic and celibate (and repulsed, but that wasn’t in the original post), and I’m thinking I might just be in a mood, but some of the response has got me kind of down, so let me give you the other, more personal half of that post, which I...
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If any aces have any footage from a pride event or...
hernameishelen:
I’ve been, ah, conned into seeing if I can make an Ace video, and the first step for that is seeing there’s enough footage at hand to make one. ;)
*paws at Southie* I know you’ve got some. Anybuddy else?
Signal boost!
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Open Thread
likespacegandalf:
I’ve been feeling more than a little down lately, with the #asexual tag as it is: with the seemingly constant stream of new things to make us angry and hurt, it’s difficult to feel anything but hopeless, and I know I’ve seen some aces expressing the same kinds of feelings.
I’ve put up an open thread on my dreamwidth, for any and all aces to talk about anything they want. I’ll...
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Ace Admiral: I have a lot to say today →
captainheartless:
aceadmiral:
So, when I go out of my way to point out that some asexuals are romantic, or some asexuals have sex, or that demis and gray-aces exist, or what have you, I do it because the assumptions I’m fighting against are that all asexuals are aromantic and celibate. When you put on your activism hat and try…
This is going to sound like I’m disagreeing, although I’m not...
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There are asexy cupcakes on my Dreamwidth! →
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I have a lot to say today
aceadmiral:
So, when I go out of my way to point out that some asexuals are romantic, or some asexuals have sex, or that demis and gray-aces exist, or what have you, I do it because the assumptions I’m fighting against are that all asexuals are aromantic and celibate. When you put on your activism hat and try to talk about a diverse group of people such as a sexual minority, you have to try and...
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Eating ace cupcakes made in ace cupcake cups while...
THEY ARE DELICIOUS BY THE WAY.
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mentalscribble:
writingfromfactorx:
fragmentsofstuff:
I created a LiveJournal community called Disabling Queerness/Queering Disability today, for people who are disabled and queer, and our allies (though tbh I dislike that term, that’s off-topic).
If anyone wants to join, or reblog this to signal boost, go ahead.
Signal boost.
Ditto. I’m in a wheelchair, although I honestly don’t know...
fragmentsofstuff:
I created a LiveJournal community called Disabling Queerness/Queering Disability today, for people who are disabled and queer, and our allies (though tbh I dislike that term, that’s off-topic).
If anyone wants to join, or reblog this to signal boost, go ahead.
Signal boost.
andiveseenallilleverneed-deacti asked: My girlfriend and I started a very small asexual group over at Livejournal a month or so ago, if you'd be interested in congregating over there.
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I am white with rage today.
This morning, I made a sarcastic comment to likespacegandalf to the effect that if the trolls took this opportunity to start hating on asexuals about the grossly inappropriate Holocaust post, I would laugh and laugh and laugh. At the time that I left for work this morning, the original post had been deleted, and so to see it you also had to see at least one asexual calling out the original post...
Last homosexual survivor of the Holocaust dies →
mentalscribble:
writingfromfactorx:
nonalina:
This is so touching. This guy seems like he was a pretty awesome dude.
But… and is it just me… or do people say a lot about the LGBT people who were oppressed during the Holocaust but not a whole lot about the asexual and demisexual victims? I AM NOT SAYING IT’S NOT AWFUL WHAT HAPPENED TO GAY PEOPLE BACK THEN. I’m panromantic myself. I just… I...
Last homosexual survivor of the Holocaust dies →
nonalina:
This is so touching. This guy seems like he was a pretty awesome dude.
But… and is it just me… or do people say a lot about the LGBT people who were oppressed during the Holocaust but not a whole lot about the asexual and demisexual victims? I AM NOT SAYING IT’S NOT AWFUL WHAT HAPPENED TO GAY PEOPLE BACK THEN. I’m panromantic myself. I just… I know that people on the asexual spectrum...
Carnival of Aces 5: Call for Submissions →
For the unfamiliar, a blog carnival is an event which collects blog posts (or, in this case, other types of submissions) centered on a specific theme. Carnivals can be one-time events or can continue on a periodic basis, like this one, which has been going on a once-a-month schedule. The Carnival of Aces focuses on material related to asexuality, demisexuality, and grey-asexuality.
Your...
ginandtonicina-deactivated20110 asked: 1: Jay is not random to me
2: he was just asking questions about the use of the word 'asexual'
3: people and science have differing opinions, it was I believe pretty clear that it was not an attack on asexual people, but on the use of the word
4: it's not just your sexual orientation, there are many people in this world and they are all allowed to voice their...
2: he was just asking questions about the use of the word 'asexual'
3: people and science have differing opinions, it was I believe pretty clear that it was not an attack on asexual people, but on the use of the word
4: it's not just your sexual orientation, there are many people in this world and they are all allowed to voice their...
An Accessory to Rambling: ginandtonicina: “What do... →
ginandtonicina:
ginandtonicina:
“What do they mean they’re asexual? I think that’s the wrong word… doesn’t that means you don’t have any sexual organs? Is that what they’re saying…that they don’t have any sexual organs, because that would make sense… but I mean there’s A LOT of them, one of them MUST have…
Jay is a Botanist, a fully fledged one at that. and I believe that he was merely...
ginandtonicina:
“What do they mean they’re asexual? I think that’s the wrong word… doesn’t that means you don’t have any sexual organs? Is that what they’re saying…that they don’t have any sexual organs, because that would make sense… but I mean there’s A LOT of them, one of them MUST have sexual organs…or maybe they’re saying that they don’t have a defined gender…because that would make...
Also! I have Internet again. Which is awesome.
