May 2011
33 posts
Azi's thinky thoughts: I'm like an android - these... →
ace-azaelia:
Okay, so I have to admit, I’m pretty neutral on the question of “does sexual privilege exist.” I believe all the things listed on the sexual privilege checklist are things that asexual people face, but I am not sure where the motivations for those items come from, and so I can’t say for sure what…
All of this, right here.
Asexy Miri: Appearances Can Be Deceiving (Another... →
“Over at tumblr, they’re putting together a sexual privilege checklist. After some typically nasty protests from the usual suspects, they appear to be trying to eliminate all overlap between sexual privilege and heterosexual privilege. As far as I understand it, anything that can happen under both is removed from the sexual privilege box and put solely into the heterosexual privilege box.
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Heterosexual vs Sexual Privilege distinctions →
epochryphal:
writingfromfactorx:
captainheartless:
So I have a question: What if it’s something that is both heterosexual privilege and sexual privilege (does that make sense?)? Because most of the heterosexual privilege ones could be directly copied in to sexual privilege, or have very close analogies.
Yeah, this actually confuses me, too. I think that items that specifically apply to...
Captain Heartless!: Relationship Hierarchies, Part... →
captainheartless:
writingfromfactorx:
captainheartless:
I remember awhile ago reading about relationship hierarchies on the asexual blogosphere, but I don’t remember if there was ever any unified terminology or explanations of them. So I intend to put forward how I see relationship hierarchies, and eventually follow this up with posts about how this…
Oh, I like this.
Especially since if...
Sexual Privilege Checklist: Sexual Privilege... →
captainheartless:
sexualprivilegechecklist:
Following epochryphal’s call for a collaborative tumblr some days ago, we now have a place and structure!
Start submitting! We want your pre-made bullet points, your works in progress, your less-directed but meaningful stream of consciousness, your constructive criticism, your points of…
So I have a question: What if it’s something that is both...
Captain Heartless!: Relationship Hierarchies, Part... →
captainheartless:
I remember awhile ago reading about relationship hierarchies on the asexual blogosphere, but I don’t remember if there was ever any unified terminology or explanations of them. So I intend to put forward how I see relationship hierarchies, and eventually follow this up with posts about how this…
Oh, I like this.
Especially since if you know ahead of time that a given...
Indifferent but Unwilling to Compromise: Pressures... →
intoxicating-rain:
When sex becomes an obligation or a chore and you’re not actively seeking it out for some reason (be that reason sexual attraction, actively wanting to pleasure your partner, emotional fulfillment, etc), I think there’s a problem.
And I think painting Obligation (or “Maintenance”) Sex as a good thing is problematic.
Because there are asexuals out there who are not repulsed,...
Attempted Danger: Men, Masculinity, Asexuality,... →
subtlefire:
Add to this that it looks like the next DSM will list HSDD as a condition for men but not women and it gets even worse. (Someone correct me if this has changed. I could use some good news.)
Trigger warning
outlawroad:
I recently wrote a story that dealt with the attempted corrective rape of an asexual male by a female. I’ve never done that before—but I’m definitely writing about...
breathethedownbow asked: Sorry again. But it's very nice to meet you (and finally others like me!). Thank you for what you write; I've read a few of your posts under the asexuality tag recently.
breathethedownbow asked: sorry about insulting you with that tumblog; I guess I didn't think of it in that way. It was more of a humorous reply to the ever-present "Things that Make You Horny." Thank you for making me realize it doesn't really work this way. :)
anshky asked: http://homohelp.net/post/5848400114
This is very relevant in the argument on whether asexuals, grey-a's, and demeisexuals should be in the queer community
This is very relevant in the argument on whether asexuals, grey-a's, and demeisexuals should be in the queer community
Ace Admiral: Things I maybe shouldn't say but will... →
aceadmiral:
[Warning: more asexual vs. queer stuff)
lizziegoneastray just got this ask that was not angry or insulting or anything like that, which was actually attempting to start a dialogue, and I appreciate that. I really do. It’s maybe the first one I’ve seen on tumblr where someone from the “no…
This right here. Look, people, if you have a problem with asexuals using the word...
The magical queer hat →
aceadmiral:
“And they mostly consist of me asking just why they’re so scared of letting a TINY number of people, scared, hurting, sexual minority people, into their spaces. What POSSIBLE justification they could have for creating and enforcing these arbitrary boundaries that are so alien to the actual communities they are discussing, other than fear. And WHAT REASON DO THEY POSSIBLY HAVE TO FEAR...
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We're All In This Together →
In which I get cranky about the erasure of asexual identities by sexual people.
Or, why sexual people do not get to decide whether asexuals are queer or not without engaging with asexuality as a whole.
A Tree of No Account: A question →
fluttertree:
Are there any non-white asexuals (etc) writing about their experiences? I’ve been going through various tumblrs and learning a lot, but get the feeling that all the authors are white (although I could be wrong, I have been before). Being non-white adds a different element to how your body is…
Siggy just recently wrote about being biracial on his blog.
There’s actually...
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So I had a conversation with my mother about my sexual orientation a couple of weeks ago. It was pretty awkward and involved discussing a lot of my fears for the future, and she didn’t really have anything comforting to say but at least she didn’t tell me I was imagining things, either.
Mostly I just wanted to share her initial conviction that my ace ring was a “lesbian...
Ninny's Acetravaganza: New AVEN poll on suicide in... →
ace-azaelia:
writingfromfactorx:
bountyninny:
On AVEN a new poll has come out regarding contemplating/attempting suicide and asexuality.
Unlike the last poll this one includes an option for whether or not you felt your feelings were in any way related to your asexuality.
The previous poll with it’s “70%” result was flawed because it…
So they do realize that fixing this “flaw” in the...
Ninny's Acetravaganza: New AVEN poll on suicide in... →
bountyninny:
On AVEN a new poll has come out regarding contemplating/attempting suicide and asexuality.
Unlike the last poll this one includes an option for whether or not you felt your feelings were in any way related to your asexuality.
The previous poll with it’s “70%” result was flawed because it…
So they do realize that fixing this “flaw” in the previous poll is going...
All up on Your Thighs: polisci-prelaw: “Frankly,... →
bananapeppers:
“Really now. You know, I’ve met a number of people in my years since coming out to myself and then others as gay who rathered I were asexual. I know this because they told me to my face: You can be gay as long as you don’t have sex. You can be gay as long as you don’t hint at your same-sexual attractions. You can be gay as long as you never ever remind straight people what gay...
Ace Admiral: Lazy Math →
aceadmiral:
I did maybe I shouldn’t have done for reasons of my mental health, but I tracked down the source of the whole thing that happened today, and it seemed to be mostly people who insist asexual people aren’t oppressed. So I did a quick google search for the sexual orientation version of the classic …
This needs seeing.
Also, given that last time I considered trying to come up...
Ace Admiral: Tightrope Walk →
aceadmiral:
There’s something about the way the asexual community talks about asexuality that makes me uncomfortable every time I see it, or worse, am compelled to say it. I am at heart a scientist that believes in exploring all possibilities to their fullest extent, but it still makes my skin crawl when I…
This tendency actually makes me feel very uncomfortable, too. I am actually...
Ace Admiral: An Open Letter to the Identity Police →
lizziegoneastray:
aceadmiral:
I was just look through polisci-prelaw’s tumblr because I reblogged something from hir earlier and. The trolls. I am so angry right now.
I put on the soothing music and am trying to calm down, but. I guess today is just one of those “distressed” days I was talking about earlier. (Although I…
Co-signed. Listen, guys, when I went to the Western Regional LGBTQIA...
halfway-outofthedark:
Why the fuck does everyone rush to tell me that my sexuality isn’t permanent? “Oh, lots of my mates were asexual until they were 21 or 22.” That’s nice, but your mates and me are not the same person. If I start fancying people, then I start fancying people. You don’t think I have already had this conversation with every single other person I’ve told? Please stop.
I...
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this makes me feel... mildly annoyed →
It is not, not, notstraight privilege. Neither does it deny straight privilege. They’re not mutually exclusive, theyintersect. Patriarchal society revolves around heterosexual, romantic, male-dominated pair-bonding and enforces a binary conception of gender and sexuality. Thus, along the gender-sexuality metric, society grants certain privileges to people who are male, who are straight, who are...
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I posted something →
In which I ramble about my personal life and explain why actually, being aromantic does not spare you from dealing with unrequited emotions.
GENUINE EXPRESSION: The Sexual Privilege Post →
outlawroad:
writingfromfactorx:
genuineexpression:
This is something that’s come up over the past few days that I really think needs to be explained. I’m going to do my best to define it, but there’s very little scholarly material on it that I’ve read (if anyone has any worthy articles on the topic, I’d love to read them!), so this is just from…
I’m not actually entirely sure that being...
GENUINE EXPRESSION: The Sexual Privilege Post →
genuineexpression:
This is something that’s come up over the past few days that I really think needs to be explained. I’m going to do my best to define it, but there’s very little scholarly material on it that I’ve read (if anyone has any worthy articles on the topic, I’d love to read them!), so this is just from…
I’m not actually entirely sure that being able to lump your romantic...
Fisticuffs at Dawn: "Calling asexuality a sexual... →
wecameforyourdead:
I’m…really not too sure what to think of that phrase.
Ran across it in Fur Affinity, which has enough issues to last a lifetime, so it shouldn’t surprise me. Racism, sexism, and all kinds of issues are pretty rampant in the furry community, which usually means by the end of the day of browsing…
For me, it boils down to the fact that sexuality is not comprised wholly...
So I'm caving and getting a Tumblr.
Yeah, I wanted to actually comment on more things, and Tumblr is woefully aggravating about that sort of thing if you don’t have an account. I don’t know how much content will be here, though. I prefer Wordpress for a lot of things and anything substantial will probably be posted there.
