December 2011
118 posts
TW anti-ace
greenchestnuts:
And once again, someone uses a feminist space to say that sexless marriages are not, in fact, marriages.
I’m super-excited about this.
Also, that we’re all sexually traumatized and that we should totally see some kind of doctor about that, guys!
Joy.
An Accessory to Rambling: Tripped over yet another... →
hawkelf:
writingfromfactorx:
hawkelf:
writingfromfactorx:
Tripped over yet another resource defining asexuality as a “lack of external genitalia” again today. Since questions about my gender identity or my genital configurations aren’t actually uncommon for me when I come out, this one is a little bit of a pet peeve of mine.
Last year, when I found…
Would emailing them help, in this...
November 2011
168 posts
An Accessory to Rambling: Tripped over yet another... →
hawkelf:
writingfromfactorx:
Tripped over yet another resource defining asexuality as a “lack of external genitalia” again today. Since questions about my gender identity or my genital configurations aren’t actually uncommon for me when I come out, this one is a little bit of a pet peeve of mine.
Last year, when I found…
Would emailing them help, in this case at least? At the bottom of the...
Oh… oh my god. I finished my applications.
They are OVER. I got them DONE.
OMG. brb, going to flail wildly now!
Atheist advent calendar anyone? →
…wait, wait, we’re supposed to substitute Dawkins for candy? NOT FAIR. D:
I’m an atheist and I generally like Dawkins, but—CANDY. SO not a fair trade.
Tripped over yet another resource defining asexuality as a “lack of external genitalia” again today. Since questions about my gender identity or my genital configurations aren’t actually uncommon for me when I come out, this one is a little bit of a pet peeve of mine.
Last year, when I found the same mis-definition in my Human Sexuality textbook (the same one that went on to...
cabell asked: Just wanted to say that I think you are wonderful. :-)
cabulous rhymes with "fabulous": Also, wow, people... →
cabell:
(As opposed to “no more oppressed, in different ways, than hypersexual people or people perceived to be hypersexual for whatever reason,” which I think is a fair argument.)
Let’s see: I TA’d a college-level Human Sexuality class in 2007 in which asexuality was not MENTIONED, let alone covered, a…
*brightly* My own Human Sexuality class not only failed to mention asexuality but...
The constant Christmas music has started up.
And, well, usually I don’t mind it so much—I actively like the older carols, actually, and I have tickets to a holiday choral concert on Thursday that I’m really excited about going to.
However. The ones on the radio and in every place of business I enter are invariably the most godawful, actively nauseating, overplayed piles of terrible that can be dug up.
THEREFORE, I am...
DIDN'T I RAISE HER ALL ALONE, DIDN'T I?!
cabell:
writingfromfactorx:
shiyiya:
writingfromfactorx:
shiyiya:
you did, you did
Oh man, I haven’t watched that in forever! Repo! has the best music.
I am just all WHEE SOUNDTRACK right now. I think Genetic Emancipation might be my favourite song. YOU I’VE MISTAKEN FOR DESTINY BUT THE TRUTH IS MY LEGACY IS NOT UP MY GENES!
I always liked Zydrate Anatomy.
ZYDRATE COMES IN A...
A few thoughts regarding asexuality.
kinsey-x:
Asexual-identified people can shame others for engaging in sexual behavior, and this is not okay. This is not necessarily because they are asexual, and it does not mean that all asexual-identified people slut-shame. People of any sexual-orientation (gay, pan, bi, hetero, demi, omni, multi, etc.) can engage in slut-shaming, problematic, sexually oppressive behavior, and this does not...
PESSIMISTIC HOPEFUL: [TW: mention of Rape] Siri... →
amaditalks:
The recent illustrations of Siri, the iPhone 4S voice-recognition based assistant, failing to provide information to users about abortion, birth control, help after rape and help with domestic violence has gotten a lot of notice. Yesterday’s post with screenshots from a Twitter…
I… wow. WOW. Go read this, it’s important.
An Ace of Fandom: greenchestnuts: An Ace of... →
greenchestnuts:
writingfromfactorx:
greenchestnuts:
greenchestnuts:
An Ace of Fandom: greenchestnuts: An Ace of Fandom: greenchestnuts: Life of an average…
greenchestnuts:
An Ace of Fandom: greenchestnuts: Life of an average asexual.: More Words!ayries:…
greenchestnuts:
Life of an average asexual.: More Words!
ayries:
Wait, so the argument is that there shouldn’t be any...
An Ace of Fandom: greenchestnuts: An Ace of... →
greenchestnuts:
greenchestnuts:
An Ace of Fandom: greenchestnuts: An Ace of Fandom: greenchestnuts: Life of an average…
greenchestnuts:
An Ace of Fandom: greenchestnuts: Life of an average asexual.: More Words!ayries:…
greenchestnuts:
Life of an average asexual.: More Words!
ayries:
Wait, so the argument is that there shouldn’t be any gender-neutral pronouns whatsoever?
Because...
Joy is in the ears that hear: Sociolinguistic... →
quarterclever:
brent-miller:
Hello, Tumblr!
I am looking for volunteers to participate in an online questionnaire about how English speakers use verbs of manner of speaking (e.g. ‘screech’ and ‘holler’). Participants can be both native and non-native English speakers. The questionnaire consists of…
Take it!
Oh man, I love taking linguistic surveys. I find accents really interesting!
The...
DIDN'T I RAISE HER ALL ALONE, DIDN'T I?!
shiyiya:
writingfromfactorx:
shiyiya:
you did, you did
Oh man, I haven’t watched that in forever! Repo! has the best music.
I am just all WHEE SOUNDTRACK right now. I think Genetic Emancipation might be my favourite song. YOU I’VE MISTAKEN FOR DESTINY BUT THE TRUTH IS MY LEGACY IS NOT UP MY GENES!
I always liked Zydrate Anatomy.
ZYDRATE COMES IN A LITTLE GLASS VIAL.
DIDN'T I RAISE HER ALL ALONE, DIDN'T I?!
shiyiya:
you did, you did
Oh man, I haven’t watched that in forever! Repo! has the best music.
That's What She Said: On the asexual community and... →
sidneyia:
writingfromfactorx:
astudyinawesomeness:
[Trigger warning: anti-ace sentiment and mentions of triggering, slut-shaming and the use of the word ‘sexual’. I’m also just going to use the term ‘OTJs’ to describe non-ace people until everyone can agree on something. Personally I’m a fan of zesexual (just for the symmetry), in lieu of sexual,…
This is an awesome overview of the...
hungryandlonelyifonlyifonly-dea asked: Hello Sciatrix I incoherented at my experience of sexual attraction for youuu on my dreamwidth. (I was going to link, but then I went wait no I can't because Tumblr is annoying like that.)
Apropos of nothing...
raumlet:
writingfromfactorx:
…I finally got around to writing a post for the Carnival of Aces. Uh, I’m the worst carnival promotor ever, sorry about that, and the deadline is approaching fast. If you’ve got the ability to write a post about attraction by Thursday, though, you totally should!
The post itself:
And then you get on to romantic attraction. This is about the point where I start...
The process of attempting to study
misterstibbons:
writingfromfactorx:
-Attempt to study for my advanced genetics test by making outlines of the lectures.
-Become distracted by tangential question about zebrafish sex determination. Google in attempt to find out more. (I asked the professor and he had no idea, so I am on my own.)
-Read primary literature paper about zebrafish sex determination. Notice aside in introduction...
That's What She Said: On the asexual community and... →
astudyinawesomeness:
[Trigger warning: anti-ace sentiment and mentions of triggering, slut-shaming and the use of the word ‘sexual’. I’m also just going to use the term ‘OTJs’ to describe non-ace people until everyone can agree on something. Personally I’m a fan of zesexual (just for the symmetry), in lieu of sexual,…
This is an awesome overview of the current state of this discussion.
An Accessory to Rambling: The process of... →
paintingthewords:
writingfromfactorx:
-Attempt to study for my advanced genetics test by making outlines of the lectures.
-Become distracted by tangential question about zebrafish sex determination. Google in attempt to find out more. (I asked the professor and he had no idea, so I am on my own.)
-Read primary literature paper about…
I did that once.
I’m serious, I actually did something...
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Apropos of nothing...
…I finally got around to writing a post for the Carnival of Aces. Uh, I’m the worst carnival promotor ever, sorry about that, and the deadline is approaching fast. If you’ve got the ability to write a post about attraction by Thursday, though, you totally should!
The post itself:
And then you get on to romantic attraction. This is about the point where I start to get confused....
The process of attempting to study
-Attempt to study for my advanced genetics test by making outlines of the lectures.
-Become distracted by tangential question about zebrafish sex determination. Google in attempt to find out more. (I asked the professor and he had no idea, so I am on my own.)
-Read primary literature paper about zebrafish sex determination. Notice aside in introduction mentioning a species of platyfish with...
I Have Feelings
greenchestnuts:
That is basically the same discussion I was having last night with Freibiergesicht, saying, “Look, if you’re hostile, we’re probably going to assume you’re another anti-ace troll, because we’ve gotten so many of them.” So, I do get it. I’m not trying to say that you did anything wrong, or that missvoltairine did anything wrong (whether or not you agree with her arguments). And...
trying to find scholarly research on asexual...
tanicus:
Help? I’m looking for mentions of asexuality in scholarly discourse, particularly within feminism if possible. They don’t have to be accurate or positive portrayals either.
Andrew Hinderliter has a pretty comprehensive bibliography at his site Asexual Explorations. He’s usually good at getting all or most of the published academic material on asexuality at least cited there, if...
I Have Feelings
greenchestnuts:
I have encountered people like this. I don’t, of course, remember their names. By virtue of not being insulting and shout-y, they tend not to be as memorable.
I remembered missvoltairine from other discussions, and so it seemed likely that she wasn’t out to “get” asexuals, but just wanted to talk about the way in which something many aces do was hurting her. And that’s okay....
shiyiya replied to your post: emerald-ace replied to your post: Also, I’ve been…
Is that the one with the hotel with too many corners?
Yes! It’s the one that takes place at a SFF convention, the one with the Magids and the centaurs.
Actually, this book was what made me want to go to a convention in the first place. *grin* So I finally got to Dragon*Con last year, like eight years...
emerald-ace replied to your post: Also, I’ve been curled up reading Diana Wynne…
Deep Secret is a fantastic book! I love just about anything Diana Wynne Jones has ever written, but Deep Secret is definitely one of the better ones. Fun fact: Nick is based on Neil Gaiman, who was friends with Diana Wynne Jones.
Wait, really? I didn’t know that, that’s awesome!
Also, I’ve been curled up reading Diana Wynne Jones’ Deep Secret over the last couple of days. Maree Mallory is awesome. That is all.
I Have Feelings
greenchestnuts:
writingfromfactorx:
I can’t engage openly when I don’t feel respect from both parties, and at this point I am primed to expect to be disrespected when people from outside the ace community express criticisms of it.
This. This is what I was trying to express last night, but I couldn’t find the right words.
For me, letting a few people poison my ace-related interactions with the...
And now, because I need something to make me feel better, a picture of a Jack Russell.
[Image description: arms holding four brown-and-white Jack Russell Terrier puppies. They are made of adorable cuteness.]
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I Have Feelings
On the other hand, my thoughts on nuance have made me think some more about my emotions and their reactions. You know the constant fucking “your community is evil and bad bad bad and everything you do is bad” stuff from Tumblr? It makes me emotionally want to cling to “sexual supremacy” as a concept. It makes me, on an emotional level, want to start defining things as us...
~I'm so privileged because I'm asexual.~ No.
hernameishelen:
<_<
Why do people have such a hard time accepting intersectionality? Sexuality is such a multi-faceted issue. If I engage in a relationship with a man, I will be privileged over someone in a same-sex relationship. As an asexual, I am not privileged over alisexuals for being so ~chaste~ because values differ ridiculously in society, and a hell of a lot of social discourse...
misterstibbons:
bitey-mad-lady:
misterstibbons:
And while we’re at it,
I like the “lack of sexual attraction = asexual” definition as a general rule but I kind of think an addendum of “if you think the label fits, just go with it” would be helpful in a lot of cases, especially since “sexual attraction” is so damn hard to define.
Because there are different ways to be physically attracted...
I HAVE MADE TWO DESSERTS TODAY AND DONE ALMOST ALL THE WASHING OF DISHES FOR FOUR DESSERTS. FEAR ME, I AM ACCOMPLISHED.
hernameishelen:
No, this doesn’t stand for your community. But, as I recall, one single person wrote this post. This is their emotional venting. Don’t conflate this with a movement, with someone trying to do activism for aromanticism. Yes, it’s problematic, but I have written posts with as much vehemence for romanticism.
I don’t support the original post, and I would actually point to a lot of...
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Actually, in some ways my idea of what a dog is was shaped by Jack Russell Terriers, since I grew up with them and my family had them when I was tiny.
So instead of thinking of “dog” as “big, friendly, loyal, kind of dumb, sort of Laborador-ish,” I assumed “dog” meant “small, conniving, ridiculously opinionated, and worryingly intelligent.”
...
And now, a Jack Russell Terrier. Because I can.
LOOK HOW ENTHUSIASTIC HE IS. BEST DOGS EVER.
aromantic: Why aren't people allowed to question... →
In the West the idea of romance, and with it the notion that out there somewhere is a someone who is ‘the one’ person for you, seems to me to have become ingrained in the culture since the romantic movement in the late 18th/early 19th century.
In my experience (I’ve lived in quite a few…
Oh for—no. No.
Let me spell this out in great big shiny words, because I think people need...
Note to presenters at academic conferences →
greenchestnuts:
meloukhia:
1. Most of the audience either has a Ph.D. or is about to get one. 2. It is extremely hard to get a doctorate without finishing college. 3. Colleges rarely accept students without high school diplomas. 4. Before graduating from high school it is necessary to pass the third grade. 5. Passing the third grade requires being able to read. 6. Therefore, almost all of...
